July 31, 2014

Tomorrow morning I take Terry to VA to have a meeting with the Nuerologist to finally find out what the tests done in May will show.  It is hard to think that they will have much to say that I don't already know, the tests were taken so long ago that I don't think they will be able to tell us much.
I have seen more changes in Terry in the months since the tests were taken.  His moods are more erratic than ever.  Other people have begun to notice now.  Some times I hear him talk to people and I have to wonder "Who is this man?  When did that happen?  Are you kidding me?"
A couple of months ago he called and talked to a cousin that he had not talked to in about six years.  Shortly after that call the cousin called me to ask if Terry was OK.  He was very concerned about things that Terry talked about, the memories were just not right.
We lost Betty Jo, his father's long time girl friend, and that has been a devastating blow to all of us.  None of the family wanted Dad to be alone so I graciously offered for Terry to go north to help Dad so he would not be alone.  I found that I was happy to be alone, sad to say but true.  It was a relief to have time alone in the house, to answer the phone and not have to answer who it was.  To be able to go outside with out having to explain why.  It is hard to explain but it was nice not to be judged or questioned about my activities.  The dog was even starting to like me!  I even had her potty trained while he was gone.
It turns out that he was not enough help to his Dad, his younger sister told me Terry was not capable of  taking care of him.  She brought Dad to her house in Pinckney and so now Terry is home again.  Back to  the couch.  He has started going for walks a lot.  He wears a pedometer and tries to walk 10,000 steps or more a day.  He has a membership to the gym that we pay for each month but he won't go.
My sister is convinced that he is depressed and needs anti depressants but I don't really think that is the case at all.  I will try to ask the doctor tomorrow.
Recently he went out to buy some D batteries that he wanted.  He came back with something else but no batteries.  He went back out, again came home with  no batteries, repeat.  Finally, trip four he came home with the D batteries.
When talking with his brother in law that rode up north with him I found out that he got lost going to his Dad's house.  This is very sad because it is a very uncomplicated drive that we have made several times a year for over thirty years.  When ever we go anywhere together I do the driving, first I don't like his driving, second because I don't like his driving!  We went to Grand Rapids for my Aunt and Uncles anniversary in June, I drove, he slept the entire drive, both ways!  I drove around Grand Rapids looking at homes that had been owned by family members and he was just terribly confused but did not ask why we were driving around.  I am quite sure he had no idea that the house I was taking pictures of was the home of my grand parents, he was there many many times in the past but was blank when I pointed it out.
Any way tomorrow will tell...........I hope.